Love Or Something Like It

...Just a question about Love? Ready? Okay, here's one; when you are in the throes of Love, do you think how wonderful it is that you are loved or are you more in awe of who you love?

Not an easy question for most of us. We all become so caught up in what Love is supposed to be, we forget how to enjoy what it is. Contrary to popular belief, music doesn't just break out in thundering soundtrack when you about to share your first kiss or have your first intimate moment.

Love is quieter, discreet, private. Don't get me wrong. I am all for passion. Passion is what keeps out hearts beating and our blood flowing and there is no greater fan of passion than I.

But the moments that mean the most between my partner and I are the quiet simple moments. Those times when you happen to glance up and catch your lover's eye across the room and you know without a doubt what she was thinking by the curve of the smile on her face and the tenderness in her eyes. Or the way she touches you in a simple , gesture of affection and you can feel her wanting of you through her fingertips, or the simple way she runs her hands through your hair absentmindedly...
The feelings that those moments cause are warm, safe ,rich and full of tenderness.

What love isn't is Obsession: an unhealthy and compulsive preoccupation with something or someone. And I have to admit, I have been obsessed with someone just as someone has been obsessed with me. It isn't pretty or healthy and is very very painful from my experience.

Just because you believe you love that 'special someone' and want 'that someone' to love you, because you feel you would be perfect together, because you believe yourself to have found 'the love of your life' doesn't mean just because YOU feel that way, that THEY do. It doesn't mean you will end up together as a couple and if the other party doesn't share your feelings, you run the chance of becoming not only someone who makes them very uncomfortable and want to avoid, but also an annoyance, as well as the pain it will cause both of you. Yes, it hurts...a lot. And yes, sometimes it feels as though you will never get over that person that you are so enthralled with. But you will, I survived and so will you.

Love or Obsession? Learn the difference because the difference will astound you...
Now that you know what Love isn't, go find a beautiful person to love and practice what Love IS...

Until Next time, My Dear Friends...

Light and Love To All,
LadiofZen