Who Your Children Really Belong To ...

If you are a parent, what you are about to read may seem a bit 'out there' but if you've read some of my writing before, you know that I see things a bit differently.
I was thinking last night what amazing and beautiful creatures children are and as I began to think in more depth, I decided that I wanted to put down in writing what I was thinking, so here goes.

From the moment that a infant takes it's first breath outside the womb, he or she is an individual person. Yes, you created this child but he or she does not belong to you and you do not own this child.
Children own themselves, period.
As a parent you are responsible for caring, nourishing, protecting, cherishing and loving your child.

And let me say that if you had a child to keep from being alone or because you wanted something that was 'yours', then you had a child for the wrong reason.

Having children out of love, is a selfless act, not a selfish one.

For infants, their world consists only of their mother. Mother is the word for God on the lips and hearts of all children. But by the age of two, they begin to differentiate between the world of 'Mother' and the outside world. They begin to realize that they are indeed separate from their mother and are individuals, with feelings and needs that belong only to them. They become independent and rush to explore this brand new, exciting world and if nurtured in the selfless way, will have no fear and only shine more brilliantly and that is how it should be.

Yes, I know you may be anxious and protective of your child as most mothers are.
But its important that you let your child be the individual that he or she is and not the person you believe they should be.
Your child is not here on this earth to fulfill your expectations.
They are here to fulfill theirs.

Let your child do that...
Nourish, guide, protect and love your children but just as importantly, encourage
their independence and their strong self of self.

And then, sit back and watch your child become the brilliant, amazing and beautiful person he or she was meant to be.

Until next time My Dear Friends...

Light and Love To You All,
LadiofZen

Pausing To Give Love A Chance...

I am someone who adores being in Love.
I breathe it in, soak it up, drink it down and it is expressed in my writing.
So I am so happy to be in Love again. This person is so like me that it is astounding.
We believe in the same things, support the same issues, and are both creative; she an artist and myself a writer.
But last night I became filled with a bit of anxiety.
Why, you ask?
Because even though we have spoke on the phone and chatted on messager extensively, we have not met in person. And because I had planned to move to Wisconsin to be with her. I realized last night that isn't a good choice for me and that I was being impulsive.
Impulsiveness is something I struggle with and though I may want to throw caution to the wind, I realized right now was not a good time to relocate, be away from my support system or my sons.
I had thrown caution to the wind many times and have lived to regret it.
Now instead of not thinking about what was bothering me, I chose instead to bring my concerns to my partner's attention.
I was very grateful to my angels and spirit guides that I did.
After speaking with each other, we agreed that I would stay here and secure my own place as I am living with a friend right now.
That instantly made me feel at ease.
If our Love is true, then there is no need to rush into it. We can pause, relax and drink it in as it happens.
If it was meant to Be...it will Be.
There simply is no need to force Love to come into your orbit, because more than likely it will not stay.
Love is meant to happen as it happens and not because you simply want it to.
More than likely, if a Love has to be forced, it is not real Love.
And ignoring your inner voice is a recipe for disaster, not fair to your partner or to yourself.
So the next time you fall in Love, instead of rushing in, pause for moment to just savor the feeling of connection with another person. Try not to have expectations and just enjoy the process of getting to know this new person in your life. The process of Love can be a slow, sensual dance between the two of you and one to be appreciated, like a very fine wine.

"In real love you want the other person's good.
In romantic Love, you want the other person."
~ Margaret Anderson

Love and Light To You All,
LadiofZen